Wow! Its been a while since I posted. I thought about starting a new blog but remember its more important to move forward than to start all over, especially in the blog world.
So here I am. Almost a year later, with the same question, whether I should be at home as an at home mom or continue to work? This time, though, I'm being honest about the pressures that can shape our decisions when it comes to our careers. Because many times our choices are defined heavily by pressures either from ourselves, others, or the circumstances of our lives.
My husband is the pressure point that is helping me to focus my career choices right now.
Pressure: "Becky, you should quit your job. 3 kids is a lot when we get no help from family." (He would also like to move closer to the water so he can have a boat and a dog.)
I would have to leave my job and stay at home full-time since we'd no longer live 10 minutes from work and the kids. Daycare for 12+ hours/day (not acceptable to me).
To be honest, I'm not quite ready to let go of my career (or at least this part of it) and we can't afford to stay where we live if I do leave my job. He's working on a Ph.D. and is getting fatigued after 2 years and is threatening to quit the program, which would tie us to the DC metro indefinitely.
Outcome: Neither of us wants to stay here forever.
So we've made a deal. Once he finishes his Ph.D., I will quit my job and move to the water. That will give me two years to acclimate to the idea of leaving work and him the incentive to finish his program so he can be closer to the water and have a dog (someone has to be at home to walk the poor guy/gal).
